Friday, May 16, 2014

HERE'S TO BLOGGING FOR ME - A Confessional

I have to admit, this week has been a roller coaster of blog emotions!  I have gone from, "I don't think I can do this anymore", to "OMG I was nominated for something and I have to do this!", to "I feel so loved right now.", and back to "Does anyone really care about what I am writing enough to actually follow me."  


I have read about this involuntary roller coaster that bloggers go on without knowing they were even waiting in line to ride.  I have felt it a few times, but never shared.  I just thought it was a part of being a new blogger.  Usually I am not so addicted to checking my STATs or how many followers I have on GFC and Bloglovin, but this week it has pretty much taken over my life!!!  I am not sure if it has anything to do with the full moon or being a girl (you know what I mean), but it has been CRAZY!


I won't lie, I get just as excited as the next person to see my following go up even by one person on any social media or GFC and Bloglovin, but I also find myself comparing to the blogs that I love to follow.  I have to give myself a dose of reality that those blogs have been up for a LONG time or much longer than my measly "almost" two months.  "It is still a baby blog", "Things take time Tela"...I say that a lot about a lot of topics in my life!  I am a very impatient person and am very hard on myself.  I set goals and strive to meet them quickly even if it means stressing out over something such as blog followers.  


I know it sounds crazy, but I wanted to share.  This would also be my first post to just share my feelings, emotions and lay it all out despite my usual "keep it together and positive" attitude.  In preparing this post, I found this extremely helpful blog post from The Inspired Room about finding/remembering the initial intention of your blog.  It really brought some focus back for me to why I am doing this and what really matters!


So back to blogging for me!  I know this sounds selfish, but I have started stressing over what my readers might want me to write about or what people would view the most and how can I possibly get more followers in the next month or so...the answer is just be me!  Write about what I love, what I do, my Littles and the Hubs!  Write as an outlet for my feelings and accomplishments.  Write to inspire people from things I have done.  Don't stress if I miss a day of blogging!  Seeing my Littles grow that day is much more important than posting a tutorial on how to effectively clean a toilet or paint my nails...


I look forward to you all still sticking around to see what I have going on in this Sweet Southern life of mine, but here's to blogging for me!  Happy Friday Ladies!  Happy Friday indeed!

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36 comments:

  1. I'm so thankful to have come across your blog! I'm right there with ya, I'm not very patient when it comes to certain things. I just have to keep reminding myself that it takes time for things to grow and to just do me lol! Happy Friday!

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    1. Thanks Kelly! It is nice to know I am not alone. I don't know why I can't understand that it takes time for things to grow when I am patient with flowers, kids and relationships, but weight loss and my blog need to be overnight! Thanks for relating!

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  2. I couldn't of said it any better myself!! So yeah, it's safe to say I feel the exact same way!! I have to regroup my thoughts an intentions and just be myself. It is SO easy to get on a bloggers roller coaster and mixed up in so many emotions!! Thank you for sharing, and for what it's worth I love your blog and looking forward to getting to know you better too.

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    1. Thanks Cat. Your comment made me smile! I really need bloggy friends/followers like you right now, not only to lift me up, but to relate with. This is such a fun thing for me to do, but the coaster ride makes me sick sometimes! :) I can't wait to see for myself what I have in store while being true to me!

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  3. Do what you know; do what you love. The rest will follow.

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    1. Thank you Patti for your kind words! I know this is truth!! I just need to make myself calm down and live it.

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  4. It is such a roller coaster. You're doing great! I think you might need this today: http://bybmg.blogspot.com/2014/03/dear-amateur-blogger-funday-monday-link.html

    xo
    Becky

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    1. Thanks Becky! That is exactly what I needed!! I love how you break it down for me and let me know that even the one set of eyes reading my blog matters...they matter more than 1,000 sets! This is so true!! Thank you!!

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  5. I'm thankful for your blog! And for gaining you as a friend!

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  6. You will hear this a lot: "Never compare your beginning to someone else's middle." It is SO true! We have all felt the same way at some point, I promise! Just continue to write about what inspires you and be yourself. You are doing fantastic!! XO

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    1. Thank you Christy! That means a ton coming from a successful blogger such as yourself! You know I love your blog and respect you as a blogger! Thanks again so much for your kind words. It really does make sense.

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  7. I love your blog, so happy I came across it - just followed! ♥
    Would love if you checked out mine sometime too so we can stay in touch!

    AIMEROSE

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    1. Yay! Like I said, I am always always always so excited to see new followers. I will definitely check our your blog!! Thanks again.

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  8. I just found your blog today, and this is the first post of yours that I've read. I can totally relate to this! Sometimes the blogging world feels like high school to me. You want to be liked and accepted, and sit with the popular girls at lunch (haha or not). I think it's best when people blog about the things they really love. When they start writing about things they don't care that much about, I think it shows. In conclusion, I like your blog the way it is :)
    http://memandco.blogspot.com/

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    1. Haha Marsh, that is one way of putting it! It does show when they start writing about things they don't care about. I haven't gone that far yet...and am glad I caught myself before I got there, but I was obsession way too much over being able to sit with the popular girls at lunch. It is weird because "real life me" is not like that at all. I am the one who tells them where to go when they turn out to be "mean girls" LOL. Thanks for stopping by!

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  9. Oh Tela, you are such a sweet soul. Every blogger definitely goes through this, and more than once too. The hard part, is just waiting and being patient (ps. check my blog on monday) but don't worry the followers will come. Blogging for yourself is the important part!!

    And as for myself I LOVE the stuff you blog about. So helpful and inspiring. I hope you had a great weekend, and can't wait to see what next week will bring.

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    1. Mary, sometimes I swear we were meant to be like real sisters or a little closer as sorority sisters. Either we post the same things not even knowing it, or you post something that I need to hear! I can't wait to see your post tomorrow and I hope you had a FABULOUS weekend!!

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  10. Sorry to read you've been having a roller coaster of emotions. Esp on blog. Us gals sure can have our ups and downs with emotions. I have been feeling up and down about blog on and off. And your last deal about folks caring about what you write about enough to follow you. I wonder that at times myself. Sometimes I want if I'm just talking to myself and does anyone read it. Although blog is a space for us to come to and just vent. Some times if you're like me, you want others to give their input or advice.

    As you can see I love to comment and also love getting them. Which is why I'm very througha (sp?) with my comments. I put my heart into everything I say. Because I dont want to be one of those bloggers that just comments with 1 or two words or even one sentence. Not my kind of style and some of those people really urk me esp when I see it on other blogs and turns out it's basically the same comment but copied and pasted. I mean, how lazy huh.

    I love Ecards too. The ones you have up Rock!

    Dont feel about checking stats or your GFC or blog lovin. Before I came up with a new blog I had over 300 followers on my hotpinkowl02.blogspot.com blog and I got the new one b/c I wanted bloggers to like me for me and add me b/c they like my blog and b/c I stand firm in what I believe in and I speak my mind and put my heart and soul into things that I do. So I think we all go thru times like this.

    How long have you been bloggin? It takes time. You just to got to go to blogs, read, comment and remember to leave your blog name b/c some folks are too lazy to look in the profile or some dont even have their blog name in their blog name.

    I'm even gonna save some of these Ecards. They are perfect gurl and perfect for this blog post. I love it! The 3 likes and 1 comment ecard I feel like that half the time.

    I get excited too and I get more excited to see a disqus message b/c it means that I have a new comment. The weekend is kinda slow since it's when everyone isn't working and are free to do whatever.

    I'm glad you got back to things. And realized why you should blog. Blog for you. Dont blog for others. Speak your heart and be honest. If you hurt folks feelings oh well. It's your space and your blog and you can say and do what you want here. I loved your blog and i give it a score from 1-10. I give it a 10.

    found you thru Kelly @ Southern Komfort Blog. She highly recommended you. So I thought I'd come check you out since I love new reads. So now I'm your newest follower. You can find me at nightowlventing02.blogspot.com

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    1. Thank you so much for your comment. I read and loved every word! I do try to individually respond to every comment either like this or via email. I hope I never get too big for my "britches" (you know what those are Georgia girl) to not respond or copy and paste. I am a very honest person...sometimes too honest...and need to keep myself in check, which I think hindered me a little on here. I am back to myself though...all people can do is stop reading! Thanks again!!

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    2. You are so welcomed. Yea I know what "britches" is or means. That whole copy and paste deal is just laziness if you want to know the truth. Yea I'm always honest on my blog and in comment. I'm always straight up in your face Blunt and honest on my blog and in comment. And if folks dont like all that....then they can do what you said. Quit reading.

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  11. Oh, I have so been there. I have been blogging for years and go through so many stages. My advice would be to just be you, blog what you want to blog, and don't focus on the stats. I know that is easier said than done, but being genuine will stand the test of time. I am currently getting back to my blogging roots, and it has been much for enjoyable.

    I'm glad I found your blog! Hang in there.

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    1. Thanks Nikki! I love this line..."being genuine will stand the test of time". You will probably see that one again if you keep reading SST. I may have to quote you. This means a lot and I believe it wholeheartedly.

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    2. I love that quote she posted.

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